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This hasn’t been confirmed by the band (at the time of writing this), but there’s very strong evidence that Mikey has cheated on Alicia with another woman, who he’s now engaged to. Normally I wouldn’t bring this up until it was officially confirmed, but I do think certain things need to be said.

First of all, here’s the story: a woman named Sarah (I’ve heard she’s a 20-year-old model) posted photos on her Instagram of her and Mikey kissing and cuddling, and claimed to be engaged to him. Here are the photos: ffrankiero.tumblr.com/post/415… (She made her Instagram private after fans found it and started commenting.)

At first people thought that Mikey and Alicia broke up and didn’t tell anyone, but Alicia tweeted she’s devastated (she’s since made her account private), and Lyn-Z has backed her up and made angry tweets that are presumably about Mikey. So apparently this was news to Alicia. I’ve also heard that they were still married while he was cheating.

I was horrified by this, and by horrified I mean I spent the night puking. I idolized Mikey and thought he was a total sweetheart who would never do something like this. I still love the guy, but this is a permanent stain on my image of him. As cheesy as this sounds, I’ll never look at him the same way. No matter what his reasons were, what he did was shameful, childish, and hurtful to everyone he lied to.

But this reminded me of a conversation I saw a while ago. A photographer met Kanye West and took a photo of him, and a commenter argued that Kanye was a jerk: comments.deviantart.com/1/6585… When I saw that conversation, it really made me think about celebrities. It’s easy for us to judge them, accuse them, and criticize them, because we often don't think of them as people. There’s no doubt that many celebrities DO act like assholes-- it’s hard to forget Kanye snatching the microphone out of Taylor Swift’s hand and humiliating her in front of thousands of people. There’s no excuse for that behavior. But at the end of the day, we don’t know Kanye. We have no idea what he’s like or what his motivations are. All we see is what the media gives us, which is often exaggerated.

To be clear: I’m not trying to excuse Mikey at all. Like I said, what he did was horrible, and he needs to “man up” and apologize to the people he hurt. I can’t even imagine what Alicia is going through, as well as the friends and family who probably had no idea. I’m absolutely sickened by it, and I'm just a fan.

But he’s not a monster. We don’t have the right to call him names, scream at him on Twitter, mock him, or make stupid threats. Because we have literally no idea what Mikey or his relationship with Alicia is like. I’m not trying to say it was Alicia’s fault by any means-- good wife or bad wife, he made the decision to cheat-- but we have no clue what drove him to this. Did he act stupidly and selfishly? Absolutely. But all we know is that he wasn’t getting something that he needed.

What I’m trying to say is: if you’re saying “mikey cheated on her cuz he’s a piece of shit,” you’re wrong. People are more complex than that.

If you’re upset by this, think of this quote: “Just because we do bad things does not mean we are bad people.” This stupidity does not invalidate the good things he’s done in the past (and there are a lot of them) and the good things he’ll do in the future. Of course, I don’t want people to go the other way and scream that it’s all Alicia’s fault, but you don’t have to hate Mikey because of this. If the hate he’s getting is upsetting you, step away from the computer. Don’t scroll through Tumblr and make yourself more miserable. I did that, and believe me, it’s not fun. Make up your own mind about him.

I hope I don’t sound like I’m defending him, because trust me, that’s the last thing on my mind. I don’t want people to blindly love him-- I want him to confess and apologize for his mistakes. I want him to EARN forgiveness. But I also want to remind the fandom that this is a matter between Mikey and his family, who we know little about. Frankly, it never should have been made public like this in the first place. You can be upset, disappointed, and angry-- even hate the guy if you want-- but don’t add fuel to the fire and scream insults at him. Because in the end, he’s a human, not a monster. Going nuts just makes a bad situation worse. He did something very stupid, and all we can do is hope that he takes responsibility.

(By the way, if there’s any major news on this, please let me know. I’m going to avoid Tumblr for now. It just makes me ill.)
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masuba Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013
I was horrified too! I love MCR & when i found out i started freaking out! i had to take my anti-anxiety meds
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toad1 Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, I was really freaked out too :/ I've calmed down since then, but it was horrible for a while.
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SharpestLife19 Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Well put. I am also horribly disappointed and personally believe there is NEVER a reason to cheat. If you want to be with someone else, have the balls to leave the other person first. Lying is for pussy bullshitters, I should know because my mom did it. Peace out, motherfuckers.
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KarmaKid94 Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Student Writer
I might cry. I'm completely disillusioned right now. Out of all of the band members, Mikey was the one I connected with instantly as the nerdy younger sibling. I was born on his birthday. I find this incredibly upsetting. I kind of need a hug.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Feb 6, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, I was really upset by this too :/ (And still am.) There has to be more to the story, though. You don't go from sweet guy to cheating asshole overnight. I wish he'd say something to we could hear his side of the story.
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KarmaKid94 Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Student Writer
Me too! I keep waiting for him to say SOMETHING.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, and it's been so long (and Frank and Ray are tweeting away like nothing happened) that I'm worried they're taking the no-comment route. The longer this gets dragged out, the worse it's gonna be for Mikey.
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KarmaKid94 Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Student Writer
Well either he or Alicia are going to have to say something EVENTUALLY, right?
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toad1 Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, if nothing else, it'll probably come up in an interview. But damn, I don't want to wait that long :grump:
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KarmaKid94 Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Student Writer
Distract yourself with other obsessions. That's what I do. I'm currently watching every movie with Jeremy Renner in it that I can access.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, I'm going through a Loki phase. (The movie version, not the comic or mythology versions, haha. Although the myth version is pretty interesting.) Can't wait for Thor 2 assuming they don't butcher his character :la:
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AlternativeAmmo Featured By Owner Feb 3, 2013
This is very well written, getting mainly the whole story.

I am not even going to accuse Mikey or Alicia of something, because its not my place, and it's their lives. I will still always look up to Mikey, and I do not love him or respect him any less based on the divorce, and rumors.
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sfregiato Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Writer
Also, Frank's posted a little short story/fable on his website. People have been interpreting it as Frank telling the fans to "back off", but these are only speculations.
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KarmaKid94 Featured By Owner Feb 5, 2013  Student Writer
Link, please? I haven't been able to find it.
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sfregiato Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Student Writer
It's on his website - frank-iero.com
It's the entry titled 'The Order of Things...'
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KarmaKid94 Featured By Owner Feb 7, 2013  Student Writer
I found it! Thanks! Also, Alicia posted "Devasted." Not "Disappointed"
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sfregiato Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Writer
Mikey's been online on Twitter, so I'm sure he's seen what everyone's saying about him. He's also unfollowed a few people (including Alicia). So, people have been assuming that he's taking the "no comment" route.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Writer
He has? Aww. :/ Damn, I was hoping he'd say something though. (I've been waiting anxiously for an official statement ever since the news broke.) I probably shouldn't feel as bad for him as I do, but the fans seem determined to make him miserable at the moment.
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sfregiato Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Writer
I'm still upset myself, but I wouldn't personally attack Mikey, like what some fans are doing. I'm thinking the band might release an official statement after the last two songs of Convention Weapons are released (four more days!!). Though, they might just act like this whole thing never happened, and try to make this blow over.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, I'm upset too, but what some of the fans doing is just horrible. And I didn't think about that-- maybe they don't want the scandal to overshadow it. Hope they're not planning on ignoring it though, because this has gotten so big that ignoring it would make it worse, not better.
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sfregiato Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Writer
I hope they won't ignore it either. I think they're just waiting after CW is finished. Because if they just ignore it, all of them will continued to be pestered until something is said. And if they ever perform... If nobody gets the right story out, then Mikey will have some items to dodge during shows. :/
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toad1 Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, and I bet the little beasts would harrass him at interviews, meet-and-greets, etc. :/ It's kind of scary how quickly fandoms turn against their idols. Tom Hiddleston received death threats from fans a while ago because someone played a harmless prank on the fandom and said it was his idea. Ofc there was no evidence for that and he had nothing to do with it, but fans went psycho on him anyway. I really hope MCR does what he did and patiently explain the full story.

If they don't, it'll probably come up in an interview, and it'll look a LOT better if Mikey (or at least the band) addresses this on their site, instead of waiting to be put on the spot.
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sfregiato Featured By Owner Feb 1, 2013  Student Writer
Agreed. Better to come out and address the issue now then wait.
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pippinmcgee Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013
I agree with all of this so much.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Student Writer
Thanks :la:
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Clockworkprincess Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
My philosophy is to listen to My Chemical Romance, love their music, hope the best for all the members, and stay out of the fire. I don't want to hate Mikey and I don't want to blindly love him, so I'll just continue to look up to him as someone who has done a lot of good but is still human.
I can't get too caught up in the details of celebrities' lives. It's too maddening to try to understand what's real, what's exaggerated, and what's total bullshit.
I wish the best of luck to both Mikey and to Alicia, whatever they may decide.
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Deadly-Meow Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
apparently someone started #cutformikey
not sure if you heard about that?
the MCRmy is falling apart...
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toad1 Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, I heard about that :/ The way a lot of these fans are acting is horrifying. I saw one girl threaten to stab Mikey.
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Deadly-Meow Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Hobbyist Digital Artist
the people who react that way arent even true Killjoys. They should be ashamed.
I mean, I was ashamed of Mikey when I first heard, and it hurt me that he would even possibly be cheating... but all I did was cover his face on my posters with a sticky note for a day.
I thought about it and it wasnt really too big of a deal, honestly.
All the threats, though. Its disgusting.
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Katkinn Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Hobbyist Writer
Woah, I disappear from the internet for a few days and this happens? Phew...

Anyways, in most cases I can't see a way to justify this kind of behaviour, unless someone in the relationship is abusive or something like that. But I want to be able to forgive Mikey for what he's done. So I guess my entire outlook on situations like this has shifted a little. I'm just taking a step back and waiting until we have the facts, and I'm glad that the mature fans on dA are taking that stance too. This is not an excuse for us to behave in a moronic or abusive way towards Mikey and we definitely shouldn't jump to conclusions. The best we can do is wait and form our opinions when we can seperate the truth from the crap. But I'm pretty sure this isn't going to just blow over; it's a pretty big deal. MCR will probably have to issue some kind of statement because half the fanbase is rabid, even if it's technically not our business anyway.

But one thing I'm thinking is that if this was an affair, why would she post the photographs on the internet? Private or not, there's ways of things getting out.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, my outlook on these things has cheated. I used to think that if you cheated, you were automatically an asshole (unless you were being abused.) Like, I'd hear about a guy whose wife killed him because he cheated and think "Oh, he deserved it." But now I'm thinking about it a lot differently. It's still wrong, but yeah...it's not so black-and-white. People don't deserve to be killed, harrassed, or threatened over it.

I'm anxiously awaiting a statement-- partly because I want to know the whole story, and partly because I want the fanbase to shut the hell up. The hate I've seen on Tumblr is absolutely appalling. Apparently the fanbase thinks it's their duty to make Mikey as miserable as possible. I'd love to see their reaction when they heard the whole story, ha. (I mean, even if he did cheat, there's still two sides to this story.) People are saying Mikey should apologize to the fans, but at this point, I think the lunatic fans need to apologize to him. Little beasts.

And that's a good point. Idk, maybe she thought no one would find them. I heard they were taken a couple of months ago, so unless they were posted recently, it DID take a while for people to find out.
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Poisonous-Kiss13 Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
" If the hate he’s getting is upsetting you, step away from the computer. Don’t scroll through Tumblr and make yourself more miserable. I did that, and believe me, it’s not fun. Make up your own mind about him."
Well, that's one of the things I agree most of all you said there. As you also said, I'm very disappointed of him as a fan, but neither I or any other fan has the right to go and call him names or send him hate via twitter. He can do what he wants with his life, but of course it upsets me to believe that he cheated on his wife.
Personally I've been really affected lately for this cheating thing (I had a really huge fight with my ex-best friend over this) so this kinda shocked me. I didn't imagine him like that, but as I said before, all we can do is wait to hear something more official. And that's why I get annoyed at all those who either send him hate or those who keep denying it, and get mad at you for believing that he actually cheated on his wife.
It's really sad that we're growing even more apart as a fandom.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, exactly. It's horrible, but at the same time, he's a human and not a monster. What shocked me almost as much as the cheating was how quickly the fandom turned against him and burned him at the stake. (Not that I want people to make excuses either, but it's actually kind of disturbing.) I guess these people think they're highly moral, but there's nothing moral about mocking and harrassing someone about their personal life-- especially when you don't even know the whole story. I just hope something official is released soon.
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Poisonous-Kiss13 Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Hobbyist Photographer
Yes, me too.
It's sad that people basically ignore everything and just carry on with their way, doing and saying whatever they want without thinking. Yes, I was mad at first when I saw Alicia and Lyn-Z tweeting, though I never thought of sending him anything about it, I realized that it was not my place to judge him at all. But in the end, we'll have to wait until something official is realeased, which deep inside I kinda know that they won't say anything like "Yes, you were all right. Our bassist cheated on his wife with a 20-year-old MCR fan. Sorry to disappoint you". I don't think that it's the kind of thing that MCR would do.
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xPunkTrendyKilljoyx Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2013   Artist
I-I didn't know of this until today when my friend told me that her friend from church had said that Mikey cheated on Alicia....

Although what he did was wrong, we all make mistakes, and what you said was completely true: Since celebrities are famous, we all look up to them and think that they're perfect, when in reality, they're just like us. They make stupid mistakes like us. Mikey is no different. And no one should think or say that this could be Alicia's fault. They're both good people, but what Mikey did was wrong. I won't forgive him for cheating on Alicia, but I won't say I hate him either. He's still that bass player, unicorn loving younger brother. I'll come back to this when I hear about a confession, and an apology. And that is why I am going to pretend that I didn't see/hear about this and just move along as a proud member of the MCRmy, because I love the band because of who they are, and if one of them screws up, it won't be a problem because WE ALL SCREW UP.
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LostSiren111 Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Last comment on this, I promise. I believe that everyone can be forgiven, sometimes it just takes time.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, Tom Hiddleston said once that he believes no one can sink so low that they're irredeemable. I've always thought that's a pretty nice thought :plotting: Not sure if I totally buy it, but in THIS case, yeah I think Mikey could definitely be forgiven. If he's mature enough to apologize, I hope people are mature enough to stop insulting and harrassing him.
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LostSiren111 Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
That is a nice thought indeed. And yeah, totally agree with the rest of what you said.
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LostSiren111 Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
Okay, sorry, I wasn't done. Alright, I respect that cheating is a personal decision and that we shouldn't be sticking our noses in other people's personal business, but that doesn't make me any less upset by this if it is indeed true. We are only human and we all make mistakes, I know this, but still...
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LostSiren111 Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
I sincerely want to believe this isn't true, but I guess we won't know for sure until a certain someone admits to it. And if he does, I really hope he apologizes to those he hurt and gets on the right track again. And you're right, we don't know why it happened, we don't know what the motivation was. We just don't know. I look up to all of MCR and when something like this happens, it taints my belief in them. It also makes me sad and angry and even sympathetic in a way. Here's to hoping these wounds will mend. I'm disappointed in you Mikey...
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PartyPoisonsgrrl56 Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2013
Well, I don't know about anyone else on here, but I ain't believing ANY of this shit until I hear it straight from the mouth of the accused!
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WornLeatherBoots Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
He's a human being, and human beings are never perfect.
We do things that we regret, and things that we wish we could regret.
I'm not saying I'm not disappointed, because believe me, I am (this winter has been too much already with the whole Watkins-business) but we shouldn't judge anyone.

This journal was such a relief to read, in the mess that is this fandom right now.
Thank you for writing it :heart:
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toad1 Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2013  Student Writer
Thanks a lot, and what's the Watkins-business? Never heard of that.
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WornLeatherBoots Featured By Owner Jan 28, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
Ian Watkins (singer of Lostprophets) apparently slept with a 13-year-old, and is probably going to prison...
I find that a bit more disturbing than this whole MCR-crisis, actually. .-.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Student Writer
Woah :o Okay yeah, that's definitely worse.
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WornLeatherBoots Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Student Traditional Artist
Yeah...
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pippinmcgee Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013
It was a bit more than that - he was conspiring to rape a one-year old with two other women. THAT'S why he's going to prison.
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toad1 Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2013  Student Writer
...holy crap. That is fucked up. I'm only vaguely familiar with the band but I did NOT see that coming.
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pippinmcgee Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013
YEAH, it was a bit of a shock for everyone. I'm the same as you, I'm only vaguely familar with the band, but it was still a bit "Oh SHIT, I really liked some of that band's stuff!!"

When the story first broke, all that could be said by the press was that he'd been done for sexual abuse charges against someone under 13, and then the jokes all started ("I really liked Lost Prophets when I was 13, turns out the lead singer liked me too...") along with the theory that it'd been a groupie who had lied about her age or something.

However, THEN the actual age of the kid was revealed and suddenly everyone was all "... oh. Wow. That's actually really fucked."
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toad1 Featured By Owner Jan 30, 2013  Student Writer
Yeah, I liked a couple of songs and even had a small crush on Ian when I was younger (I thought he was cute :B) I NEVER would have seen that coming, wow. I can't even imagine how that fandom's dealing with it :o I thought the Mikey thing was bad, geesh.

It's weird to think about him now, knowing that he was a pervert this entire time. So creepy.
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