This hasn’t been confirmed by the band (at the time of writing this), but there’s very strong evidence that Mikey has cheated on Alicia with another woman, who he’s now engaged to. Normally I wouldn’t bring this up until it was officially confirmed, but I do think certain things need to be said.
First of all, here’s the story: a woman named Sarah (I’ve heard she’s a 20-year-old model) posted photos on her Instagram of her and Mikey kissing and cuddling, and claimed to be engaged to him. Here are the photos: ffrankiero.tumblr.com/post/415… (She made her Instagram private after fans found it and started commenting.)
At first people thought that Mikey and Alicia broke up and didn’t tell anyone, but Alicia tweeted she’s devastated (she’s since made her account private), and Lyn-Z has backed her up and made angry tweets that are presumably about Mikey. So apparently this was news to Alicia. I’ve also heard that they were still married while he was cheating.
I was horrified by this, and by horrified I mean I spent the night puking. I idolized Mikey and thought he was a total sweetheart who would never do something like this. I still love the guy, but this is a permanent stain on my image of him. As cheesy as this sounds, I’ll never look at him the same way. No matter what his reasons were, what he did was shameful, childish, and hurtful to everyone he lied to.
But this reminded me of a conversation I saw a while ago. A photographer met Kanye West and took a photo of him, and a commenter argued that Kanye was a jerk: comments.deviantart.com/1/6585… When I saw that conversation, it really made me think about celebrities. It’s easy for us to judge them, accuse them, and criticize them, because we often don't think of them as people. There’s no doubt that many celebrities DO act like assholes-- it’s hard to forget Kanye snatching the microphone out of Taylor Swift’s hand and humiliating her in front of thousands of people. There’s no excuse for that behavior. But at the end of the day, we don’t know Kanye. We have no idea what he’s like or what his motivations are. All we see is what the media gives us, which is often exaggerated.
To be clear: I’m not trying to excuse Mikey at all. Like I said, what he did was horrible, and he needs to “man up” and apologize to the people he hurt. I can’t even imagine what Alicia is going through, as well as the friends and family who probably had no idea. I’m absolutely sickened by it, and I'm just a fan.
But he’s not a monster. We don’t have the right to call him names, scream at him on Twitter, mock him, or make stupid threats. Because we have literally no idea what Mikey or his relationship with Alicia is like. I’m not trying to say it was Alicia’s fault by any means-- good wife or bad wife, he made the decision to cheat-- but we have no clue what drove him to this. Did he act stupidly and selfishly? Absolutely. But all we know is that he wasn’t getting something that he needed.
What I’m trying to say is: if you’re saying “mikey cheated on her cuz he’s a piece of shit,” you’re wrong. People are more complex than that.
If you’re upset by this, think of this quote: “Just because we do bad things does not mean we are bad people.” This stupidity does not invalidate the good things he’s done in the past (and there are a lot of them) and the good things he’ll do in the future. Of course, I don’t want people to go the other way and scream that it’s all Alicia’s fault, but you don’t have to hate Mikey because of this. If the hate he’s getting is upsetting you, step away from the computer. Don’t scroll through Tumblr and make yourself more miserable. I did that, and believe me, it’s not fun. Make up your own mind about him.
I hope I don’t sound like I’m defending him, because trust me, that’s the last thing on my mind. I don’t want people to blindly love him-- I want him to confess and apologize for his mistakes. I want him to EARN forgiveness. But I also want to remind the fandom that this is a matter between Mikey and his family, who we know little about. Frankly, it never should have been made public like this in the first place. You can be upset, disappointed, and angry-- even hate the guy if you want-- but don’t add fuel to the fire and scream insults at him. Because in the end, he’s a human, not a monster. Going nuts just makes a bad situation worse. He did something very stupid, and all we can do is hope that he takes responsibility.
(By the way, if there’s any major news on this, please let me know. I’m going to avoid Tumblr for now. It just makes me ill.)